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Thursday, January 14, 2016

Ethical Dilemma?

About 10 - 15 years ago, I began hooking up semi-regularly with a guy I'd met online. It was fun, casual, no strings, great sex. As time went on, the frequency began to diminish, but the sex was still great. Concurrently, there was another man close by that I occasionally hooked up with, and again, the sex was great, but without anywhere near the frequency of the first guy.  A few years ago, these two guys met, hooked up, and I think, moved in together. Guy number one told me that he didn't know what guy 2 did on his free time, and it was cool with him. He also told me that he couldn't hook up at his own place anymore, and that didn't seem to make much sense to me. Anyhow, yesterday I hooked up with guy 2, but it was at guy 1's place. So, was I out of line to do the deed at guy 1's place with guy? I don't  know if they are living together, but I suspect that's the case. The sex was great, but I wonder if I overstepped some boundaries.


  1. That is a tough spot.... In some respects it would be hot. On the other hand, it could get real complicated. I don't know what I would do. I'd probably stop seeing both of them sexually.

    Good luck.

  2. Tough call. I probably wouldn't hook up with one guy in a living space shared or, especially, occupied exclusively by the other. But I absolutely see no reason why you shouldn't continue hooking up with G Number 2 in a neutral space, because Guy Number 1 told you he didn't care what Guy Number 2 did on his free time. Unrelated, I just wanted to add that it sounds like you got over that whole "Am I getting bored with sex?" thing from a couple of posts ago. GOOD!

  3. tough one. A part of me says nah and another got for it as far as location. So my partner told me philosophically that he'd never cheat in a bed he shared with his partner. I on the other hand don't have a problem with it. So if he finds me in our bed with another guy, he should be mad at me, right? Not at the other guy. But it seems like you feel kinda awkward about it so if say go with your guy (which currently seems to give you pause)